Take people for Granted

"But I’m only human

And I bleed when I fall down

I’m only human

And I crash and I break down

Your words in my head, knives in my heart

You build me up and then I fall apart

'Cause I’m only human, yeah"

katanya mba  Christina Perri sih begitu netizen..

well yha , we're just human right..

we get hurt and we hurt people

but the thing that i want to talk about is

when we hurt people..

sometimes with consciousness or unconsciousness state of mind we hurting people with or without purpose..

why ?

because we are selfish human being.

feels like what we have is never enough,

and we take things for granted..

because we don't need it anymore

because we think that we found something better to replace it

 

like as a child we gets a new toy , we  are delighted and want to play with it every chance you get , we want to take it everywhere even carry it to bed . but as time passes and new toys are introduced we play with it less and less till forgoten in the bottom of the toy box..

can we imagine if the toy is a human ? 

so let's make it a story..

there is someone who sticks around you

always be there for you , whenever you needed

listen to stories about your days , dreams..

tries to make you happy all the time

overcoming weaknesses just to fulfill what you want

is someone who put you  first before anything else..

at first you become addicted to her existance..

you want to talk with her everyday..

you want to see her everytime..

her fisrt kiss gives  you  butterflies in your stomach..

you're  glad to having this person in your life..

you think that you love this someone like you never love anyone before..

but,

time passes..

all the things that you thought were special , were not anymore..

you knew how it feels to be kissed in many times..

you knew her days will be like..

no more butterflies..

maybe you still feeling blessed , but..

someone new is coming..

someone you never known before..

you get curious about him

he gave you a sign that he can replace her position
and you choose him.

you get excited , like you get a new toy to play with..

his attention feels right to you, it consuming your mind

and without you realized you took what you had for granted

the definitions of being "taken for granted" include "to fail to appreciate the value" and "to treat someone in a careless or indifferent manner."

you may think the new one is so much better than the old one,  but

if you look and think deeper into it 

you will realize..

he never gives  you  butterflies..

his effort is so much less than the old one

his attention is different from the old one

and the saddest thing is , when you decide to leave and take her for granted you hurt her deeply..

"Being taken for granted can be a compliment. It means that you've become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life"—Joyce Brothers

human is selfish creature , it's about their needed and wants..

you need to be with someone , you ask for relationship..

you're tired with relationship , you ask for break up..

you miss her , you ask  to go back..

then you feel tired again , you ask for break up again..

and when you found someone to replace her you just throw her away..

at the end we need to understand  , "once we  figure out what respect tastes like , it tastes better than attention"

regards,

pluie

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